Life choices.

Life is full of choices. We make them all the time. What to eat, what to wear, what to say and what to do. We make choices all the time. It boggles my mind that the one choice we don’t make is the choice to be happy. We just take what life throws at us, and we react to it. You don’t have to do that you have a choice. When life gets you down, make the conscious decision to be happy. 

Don’t ignore what’s getting you down, don’t avoid it, but look it squarely in the face (figuratively of course) and say

🙏 “Yeah, this is happening, but I’m not going to let it get me down.” 😉

Look for solutions, look for ways to fix it, and above all, laugh and find joy in the other things around you. Choose hope, not sadness, choose joy and not despair.  Above all, choose YOU!

Stay Motivated
       
~Richard  Waita

When Life Brings You to the Edge of What You Know, Expand. Go Deep.

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When Life Brings You to the Edge of What You Know, Expand. Go Deep.
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Have you been feeling like you are walking along the edge of a cliff? Like your next step could plunge you into an abyss.
You can’t look down. And it’s too unnerving to stay frozen on this edge. That’s just not an option.

Think about it for a moment. You’ve felt like this before. And in this moment, you’re feeling it again.
Whether the edge is the next leap in your business, your attempt with a new skill (like when I tried the cello), or cracking the code of greater self-discovery, it all has to do with expansion.

Expansion happens at the edges of your known world . It brings you into a new landscape with unfamiliar markers. That, by its nature, is uncomfortable!

Maybe you’re in this place because of an external push from an outside situation. Life has a way of moving, even when you hold on. And you don’t know how things will “work out”.
But you never really know how things will work out, do you?
When this happens to me (and I often find myself at the edge), I see the discomfort as part of my next step. It’s a nudge from the Universe when I’m holding back, and what I really need is to step forward.

Holding back or hiding out may be your first impulse. However, it will not bring you comfort in this new environment. It’s okay to feel uncomfortable, even scared. That makes sense when you are walking along a cliff edge!
But it’s important not to get paralyzed. Or, conversely, not to leap right into action, or dive into planning—doing anything so you don’t feel what you are feeling.

Explore the feeling first. Get curious about it. After all, curiosity gives you space to explore and expand. See what you need.

You might know that you need quiet time. Allow yourself to be truly quiet. Don’t lose yourself in watching TV or reading a book.
What’s important is to work with the expansion. This isn’t the first time you’ve grown into something new. Create space to remember that you’ve been here before. Remember that it has worked out before.
You may bump against old ideas of yourself or of how life is supposed to be. After all, these new experiences are stretching your boundaries, aren’t they? Boundaries are the conditioned, patterned ways of doing and thinking that you learned growing up.

So if you’ve been approaching this in your usual way, perhaps a shift is in order. Claim the freedom to explore, to modify and to experiment.

Start by feeling the ground under your feet and the support that offers. That’s what being grounded means—that the ground will hold you up! You might notice that the quality of your thoughts is different, or you have ideas that surprise you. Hang out with what is new. Welcome these different thoughts. Allow your pictures and ideas to be fluid so that you can discover what lies beyond your edge.
After all, it’s who you are moving into being.

Which by its nature takes you beyond your comfort zone. At some point, you will adjust to the changes . This is where you will feel moved into action.

Go deep. Ground into this new place first. Then know that your next steps are full with the you who you are today.

Where are you now? Where are you headed? Let me know.
  ~Richard Waita

10 Bad Habits That Drain Your Energy and How to Quit Them.

10 Bad Habits That Drain Your Energy and How to Quit Them

Do you feel constantly exhausted and worn-out and don’t understand why? The reason is that we tend to maintain habits that drain our energy, and we don’t know how to avoid them. But the solution is very easy — it only takes the will to do it.
Today we at Bright Side bring you 10 things that steal your energy and the solutions to each of them, proposed by the Dalai Lama.

1. Keep your promises

Don’t make promises you can’t keep. In an effort to be nice, you will end up destroying your good name. So if you make a promise, stick with it!

2. Stay away from toxic people

Many times, through wanting to help people, we end up receiving complaints and negative energy from others. Surround yourself with positive people, and avoid the toxic ones.

3. Pay your bills on time

"Don’t owe anyone anything" should be your life motto. Always pay back your debts on time. Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

4. Learn to forgive

If we choose to live with unforgiveness, we choose to suffer. Instead of poisoning yourself with hatred, choose to forgive and move on, whether or not someone deserves your forgiveness. Do it to give yourself peace. You’ll feel like a weight has been lifted off your chest.

5. Focus on doing what you like

Sometimes we need to do things we don’t enjoy, but, when possible, delegate the tasks you don’t like doing and focus on what you are passionate about.

6. A time for every purpose

There’s time to rest and time to act. Both are equally important and necessary in your life. Do not forget it.

7. Don’t clutter...renew!

If you want to let your life flow, don’t get stuck. Start by rearranging your bedroom or renovating your closet. Your home is a reflection of your energy, and clutter blocks its natural flow. So if you want to clear your mind, start by clearing out the clutter in your space.

8. Face adversity

Do not hide from confrontations. If something bothers you, express it and cut it out of your life. Do not wait for the solution to fall from the sky. It’s often right here — you just have to look around.

9. Keep an eye on your health

Even the most brilliant mind can’t do without good health. Those who take care of both their physical and mental health needs are much happier. Spend enough time taking care of your body.

10. Let your life flow

You are a part of everything, and everything is part of you. Stop fighting with life, accept it, and let yourself be carried away by the flow. Just remember that you are the one who navigates the boat.
  -Richard Wait a.

Life, struggle and thoughts... Richard Waita writes...

Life , struggle and thoughts :::

Everyone faces obstacles and they do struggle in life , in saying struggle I mean struggle of any kind.
Life is not that easy that everything you will get by your will and desire .
Sometimes you don't get what you want at that moment , but later on you will realise that it was good that you didn't get at that time. This is the basic principle of life that is better things are might be kept for your future .

It is quite often said that whatever happens , happens for good only. There might be some hidden logic and rationality . So don't get sad and furious over your present events , instead try to still move on with your life , goal , vision and direction.

It happens quite a time that you would feel what is this , I am not worth this and that ...... but these are the thoughts that will hold you back and if you continue , then these thoughts would act as a spring to reach to your goal.

All the besssssttttttttt ......
-Richard Waita

You gotta climb the ladder.

You gotta climb! Some say that the top is not for you. Some say the top is too high. Some say the top is where the cunning and conceited stay. Some say "why bother"! Some say you can't do that, you are out of your mind. Some will even say you changed. Let them say what they say and you do what you do! No one gets to the top of their fulfillment by being casual. A wise man once said that if you are casual about your life you will become a casualty. Get real with yourself and dig into that vision and climb above the disbelief and pessimism. No one gets to the top of the mountain by drifting. Get to work. I'll see you at the top where the air is fresher and where you can be the first to see the sun rise and the last to see it set. Champion you gotta climb! Approach your challenges with a winning curiosity. Listen to your inner coach and not the critic. Believe the Champion in You. -Richard  Waita

Things that will destroy your career.

7 Things That Will Destroy Your Career

There are so many things that can kill the careers of good, hard-working people. Honest mistakes often carry hard-hitting consequences.

Most people  kill their careers in subtle, decidedly undramatic ways. And it’s a shame because it happens all the time.

All things that you can control before they creep up on you and kill your career.

1. Playing politics.

If you find yourself sneaking around or if you’re embarrassed if some of your behind-the-scenes manipulations come to light, that’s politics. Stick to strategies you’d be proud to discuss in front of your colleagues.

2. Over-promising and under-delivering.

This is one of those situations where perception matters more than reality. Don’t deliberately undershoot your goals; just be realistic about the results you can deliver so that you’re certain to create expectations that you will blow out of the water.

3. Complacency.

If you’re always too busy to learn something new or to expand your network, you’ve got your priorities mixed up. However, if you make continuous growth and development a priority, you’ll be ready for whatever comes your way.

4. Fear of change.

Change is a constant part of our lives, both personally and professionally. It doesn’t matter whether you think things should change or whether you prefer the old ways—change just is. You don’t have to learn to love it, but you do have to learn to stop resisting it and to start adapting to it.

5. Having an inflatable ego.

Never, ever be content with resting on your laurels. Once you start thinking that you’re the cat’s meow, you’re setting yourself up for very painful failure.

6. Low emotional intelligence (EQ).

Emotional outbursts, belittling others, shutting co-workers down when they speak, low self-awareness, and just generally being difficult are other ways that a lack of emotional intelligence will do great harm to your career.

7. Sucking up to your boss.

Suck-ups try to get ahead by stroking the boss’s ego instead of earning his or her favor. That doesn’t go over well with colleagues who are trying to make it on merit. Yes, you want to bolster your relationship with your boss, but not by undermining your colleagues. That’s the key distinction here. For a boss-employee relationship to work, it has to be based on authenticity. There’s no substitute for merit.

Bringing It All Together

A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that they can only damage their careers by making one huge misstep, but the reality is that it’s usually not that dramatic.
~Richard Waita